Happy Anniversary Jay

21 years. Wow! The time seems to have gone so fast and yet, when I look at those two "kids" standing there looking back at me in our wedding photo, it seems that was a lifetime ago. Boy they thought they had all the answers. They just knew how life was going to turn out. They knew everything was going to be perfect, now that they were married. Talk about naive. LOL

Through those 21 years we have endured so much together, but I believe the key is that we endured them TOGETHER, as a team. The one thing we actually did know for sure was that neither of us was ever going to quit, to give up. We talked a lot about that before we got married. We both agreed that divorce was not going to be an option, so whatever was thrown at us, we would have to find a way to work through it. I'm not going to lie and say it's been easy. It's been so hard that there were times when I wondered if we really were going to make it. There were times when we both wondered that. Tough times. Tough times that not only tested our faith in the Lord, but our faith in each other. But the best thing we ever did before becoming spouses & lovers, is we became best friends. To this day, he is still my very best friend in the entire world. If I have news of any kind, he is the first one I want to call. If I have a problem, he is the one I want to help me through it.

We recently had a situation where I was face to face with someone who has hurt people very near and dear to me. That's when the "mama lion" in me comes out and I want to attack. I want to protect them and to get that person (or persons) away from my loved ones and to make sure they know they are not welcome ever again. However, I also know that attacking someone is not the correct way to handle things. So when this occured, I called Jay on his cell. He could tell in my voice right away that something was wrong and that I was on the verge of tears. I said "Soooo, do you have time to bail me out of jail?" He paused a moment to realize the seriousness of what I was saying and said "No, why?" I said "Well then, I need you to talk me down and to do it quickly." I went on to tell him what was happening and within a couple of minutes he gave me a totally different (calmer) perspective and I was able to handle things much easier. He ended our conversation with "Besides, if you end up in jail, who's going to fix supper?" LOL He knew I needed a laugh to lighten things up and he was right. God KNEW this was the man I needed in my life.

We had a song sung at our wedding "Doubly Good To You" (click on the title to hear the song). The first time I heard that song I fell in love with it and I still love it to this day. And I thank God for sending me Jay. He's not perfect, but he's perfect for me.

Happy Anniversary sweetheart. Here's to the next 21 years.