Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Happy Birthday Dad

Today is my dad, Tony's birthday. The picture above was taken just this morning. Austin had an ortho appointment and we stopped by my parents house for a quick minute, before I took Austin back to school.

I have always said I had a "father" and a "dad" - they however, were not the same person. My father was the one who I was biologically related to. My dad, was the man my mother married when I was 13.

To say I gave my dad a hard time when he entered the picture is a HUGE understatement. Keep in mind, that my father was not a kind person and there were lots of issues, so a part of me was actually happy when my parents divorced. There was a peace and calmness that we hadn't had a lot of before.

When my mother started seeing Tony and they were getting serious, I remember thinking "What is wrong with her??" I remember telling one of my friends "We finally got one man out of the house and now she is thinking about bringing another one back in?" I guess I felt all men would be like my father. I even went so far as to write an "I hate you" letter to my dad.


We can joke about that note now, but at the time I was terrified to have a man moving back into our house. I did my best to fight his authority, and I'm sure there were many times I made him want to pull his hair out, but in time I came to realize that he actually cared about us kids.

Fast forward a few years and I was dating a boy who was not a good choice. When I tried to break up with him, he took me out behind the school and beat on me, and then broke the antenna and side mirrors off my car.

Dad called this boy and this boy actually said "What do you care? It's not like she is your real daughter anyway?" To this day, I don't know that I've ever actually seen my dad as mad as he was at that moment. He even went so far as to push this kid up against a wall the next time he saw him to let him know that his daughter would not be treated like that.

While I was mortified to know this was happening - in front of tons of people - it felt good to know he was sticking up for me.

He later gave me away when I got married, and cried (and talked baby talk) when he visited my daughters, his granddaughters, in the NICU. He is an inspiration and a mentor into how to walk the walk.

Happy birthday dad. Thanks for putting up with me, always being there for me, and most importantly, thanks for being my dad.

I love you.

1 comment:

Therese said...

I happen to share this same Dad Dena speaks of and am proud to call him my Father and my Dad! Because he met my Mom (#2)--I gained some of the greatest sisters and brother a girl could have! Without this union, I would be an only child-- instead, I have the love of two sisters, a brother and a Mom who I adore and love very much! (oh, and a Dad too of course! )
Their marriage made us siblings... God's love has made us a family! I thank Him every day!
Love ya sis!