Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Sisters And Friends

Sisters is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once the sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship. ~Margaret Mead

I've said this before, but I'll say it again - when Ashley & Chelsea were growing up, they fought all the time. Literally...

all the time.

They argued over everything. Literally...

e v e r y t h i n g.

To say it got on my last nerve is an understatement.

It got to the point where most days it made me crazy! I kept praying that someday they would actually get along. I vividly remember my pleading with God to please allow us just one full day with no arguing, but it rarely ever happened. It made me sad to think that here they were not only sisters, but identical twins. Twins who are supposed to have that special bond. Not only did they not acknowledge that they maybe had that bond, but they were quite vocal about how they didn't want a twin, let alone a bond with her. I prayed that somehow, someday they would actually grow to love each other.

Don't get me wrong, they have always been such sweet loving girls to everyone ...just not to each other. And they readily admitted it.

With them now at college, we sadly don't get to see them very often. We talk on the phone as often as their schedules allow, but we had no idea if they talked to each other or not. Given the fact that they never got along, I sadly figured they were glad to be rid of their twin and probably hardly ever talked to her.

Thankfully, I was wrong.

From what we have seen over just these past few days is nothing short of miraculous. Seriously. They have literally gotten so close, it's amazing!

They have all kinds of secrets between them and when one of them mentions some particular word or person, they erupt into giggles. Does it bother me that I have no clue what they are laughing about? Heck no! I love watching them. That might sound corny, but when you figure that most days I never thought we'd see this between them, I really do enjoy it.

Then it was their birthday last Thursday. The cards and facebook messages they exchanged were so sweet. Talking about how they missed each other, and how they wished they could have spent the whole day together.

It made my heart smile.

They exchanged the sweetest "sister" related gifts.

Chelsea sent a bunch of pictures of the two of them in and had them made into a personalized photo album for Ashley, complete with notes included that she had written.



And Ashley gave Chelsea a "sister" related gift and wrote her the sweetest note.

And both of them stated that not only were they sisters, but they were best friends. Did you read that? Not just friends.....they said they were best friends.

Oh my goodness, talk about making their mom cry!

When I went to bed I said a prayer of thanks that they had finally grown into being friends. And speaking as someone who has sisters of her own, it's a blessing they will always be grateful for.

5 comments:

Becky said...

That is so cool. I pray the same thing happens between all my babies.

Anonymous said...

This is awesome! As a parent - I am glad to see you sisters relate!!
Love you all!!!!!!!!

Pam from alertandorientedx4 said...

The prayers of a righteous mom availeth much. My kids argue. A. Lot. But they are also very close and friends...no twins (not even the Irish kind), but the four of them were born in a 5 1/2 year span. I can only see them growing closer together as they grow older. Whatever you did, tell me. Apparently you got it right.

Pam from alertandorientedx4 said...

The prayers of a righteous mom availeth much. My kids argue. A. Lot. But they are also very close and friends...no twins (not even the Irish kind), but the four of them were born in a 5 1/2 year span. I can only see them growing closer together as they grow older. Whatever you did, tell me. Apparently you got it right.

Chel's Leaving a Legacy said...

This made me cry, my friend. :-) What a precious hope you have given me today for my oldest and youngest boys.