For our first date, Jay called me and said his cousin was having a party for her birthday and he wanted to know if I'd go with him. My response was "Sure, why not." We got to the party and it was then that I found out his cousin was turing 9 (Happy birthday again Suzi) and his entire extended family was at this party. Talk about pressure! My first reaction was "LAME". But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it showed how important family was to him and that impressed me.
For the second date, Jay brought a big pizza to my place and we stayed in talking all night to get to know each other. Jay told me he was a student at Iowa State. When I asked his major, he said he was a business major with an emphasis in finance.
Ca-ching!! I had found my city guy, which is what I had wanted!!
What he forgot to mention was that his full major was AG business with an emphasis in FARM finance and that his plans were to go back home and farm when he was done. It's a good thing I didn't know that, because I would have never gone out with him again. Dating a farmer was NOT in my plans.
He took me home to meet his parents and that just about ended everything. This was in October. For this non-farming girl that meant nothing. But I now know that meant it was harvest season. I was going to meet his parents. I wanted to make a good impression, so I wore black dress pants, a nice shirt, boots and a white coat. We drove to his parents home and his mom was there and she sweetly offered me a pair of coveralls to put over my clothes. They aren't exactly flattering and I knew I would rather burn the clothes I was wearing than put a pair of those on, so I politely declined.
We leave the house and head to a farm field. Jay leads me over to a tractor and we ride out to the middle of a field where I meet his dad. They had a new implement so Jay left me in the tractor while he rode with his dad for a bit to learn about the new equipment. I sat there thinking "ok girl. Let's evaluate this situation. You are sitting in a tractor. A T-R-A-C-T-O-R." Not exactly part of our 5 year plan now is it?" The song "If They Could See Me Now" kept going through my head. I prayed and said "Dear God, I need a sign from you. Is this the guy you would have imagined for me? Remember, I'm trying to find my Mr. Right."
The very next day when I got off work I found a note under the windshield wiper of my car. It was from Jay. I won't go into all that it said, but the main part said "I'm sure I'm not what you may have thought of when you imagined your dream man. I don't have fancy things or drive fancy cars or live in a big fancy city, but I'm a man who loves you and would love the chance to prove to you that I am your Mr. Right."
That freaked me out! I had never told him about my prayer or my wish to find my Mr. Right!
We spent almost all of our free time together everyday. By the end of the second month of dating we knew we had something special....but it was about to be tested....He had yet to meet my parents ~ specifically, my dad. I love my dad, but when it comes to his daughters dating, he can weed them out pretty fast. :)
to be continued...